So here's the thing. We are women. We are strong. We can handle anything that's thrown at us. We work multiple jobs, attend school full time while raising children! We are absolutely incredible. We can achieve anything we put our minds to all by ourselves. But, knowing that you CAN do it alone doesn't mean you HAVE to do it alone. Make no mistake, your mother, grandmother, aunts, and cousins may have all given birth naturally, via c-section, at a hospital, birthing center, or even at home. They could have been by themselves or surrounded by loved ones. But, was their experience, what they wanted? Did they even know what they wanted for their birth before the event? Do they have fond memories of their experience? Or, have they classified what in any other circumstances would be labeled a traumatic experience, as "just what happens"? Don’t forget, there was a time, not too long ago, where twilight sleep (where doctors knock you out with morphine, take your baby out, and rob you of your birthing experience) was accepted as "just what happens" and resulted in a 50% increase in infant death and birth injuries.
I don't say all this to scare you, although birth seems terrifying. I'm saying this to let you know that there are people who are trained and qualified to help you understand your body and birth. To guide you to your ideal birthing experience. To help you interpret the endless medical terms your OB spews. To talk you through the many other frustrations you may experience. To apply counter pressure and ease the pain of those contractions. And most importantly, to make sure your memory of your birthing experience isn't a farce or a trauma you explain to others as "it is what it is." So you can look back fondly, and genuinely tell your friends, mom, aunts, cousins, sisters, and daughters that birth can be a wonderful, empowering, and loving experience!
So tell me, why haven't you found a doula yet? We are everywhere. We are diverse in background, experience, specialties, and prices. We do not replace your husband or your mother. We are an essential addition to your birth team. Yes, I get it, you are strong and capable. Strong enough to realize that not only the extremely wealthy or the royal deserves a doula, SO DO YOU. Strong enough to analyze the facts and understand that EVERYONE should have a doula.
....Thanks for coming to my ted talk....
Love and light,